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Who is My "Perfect Partner?"

What is an "Imago Match?"
What happened that I would create that kind of image?
Why would I fall in love with that type of person.
How do I know if my partner has the potential?
What does this all mean?
How do I know if I am with an Imago Match?
Is there anyway around this?
Are you ready?

What is an Imago Match?
Imago is Latin for the word image. Throughout life, your Unconscious has been creating an image of the "Perfect Partner" for you. You may not want to hear it, but that image consists of a composite of your caretakers and other significant people in your childhood, as well as all the disowned and denied parts of yourself!

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What happened that I would create that kind of image?
Every living thing has embedded within it a "blueprint" for what it will be as an adult. As humans, not only do we have a physical blueprint, but we also have a social, emotional, psychological, and spiritual blueprint. Unless you had a perfect childhood, with everyone you ever came into contact with also being perfect, you have what we call Childhood Wounds. Those wounds are developmental tasks that were not quite completed because of some rupture in the connection betweeen you and another significant person. This, in effect, freezes a part of you back at that particular time of your life. Most of us have LOTS of frozen parts! In psychological terms, we call this "Developmentally Arrested."

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Why would I fall in love with that type of person?
Nature wants you to complete childhood and heal those wounds. What better way than to have your parents do that for you? But the problem is you cannot go back in time and, chances are, your parents will not change. So to whom can you look to help you heal? Fortunately, nature has miraculously supplied you with someone your Unconscious confuses with your parents, and someone you know has the potential to give you what you never got as a child, and therefore help you heal!

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How did I know my partner had that potential?
Because when you first fell in love, during the Honeymoon Stage of your relationship, they gave it to you! They gave you what you needed and began the healing process. They also expressed those parts of yourself that you had to disown or deny in order to be in your family or culture. However, once Romantic Love wears off, we begin to hate those parts of our partner and they begin to become least capable of giving us what we need the most!

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What does this all mean?
What this means is that you will continue to find partners either very similar to the ones you have always found or who appears to be the extreme opposite. That is not to say they will have the positive quality instead! It means they will have the opposite side of the same coin or opposite negative quality. For example, if you married a "stingy" or "tightwad" type, the next partner may be the extreme opposite, or spends too much money.

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How do I know if I am with my Imago match?
Chances are, if you fell in love and then fell out of love, and stayed together for any significant length of time, you are to some degree Imago matches for each other. The more intense your relationship is, the more of an Imago match you probably are.

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Is there anyway around this?
The only way around this is to never be in relationship! While there are a few recluses in the world, you probably won't go to that extreme. The drive to be in relationship is too strong. So until you heal those wounds and reclaim those disowned and denied parrts, you will continue to attract and be attracted to those same types of partners.

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OK! I am ready to find out who my Imago Match is!
Click here to go to the form that will help you identify your Imago Match. If you still doubt the above, CLICK HERE to prove it to yourself.


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